`It took a piece of me´ is a clue

So far there are no measuring devices or imaging methods for love or for the soul. However, art has existed since time immemorial. As music, imaging and performing, art is a wonderful tool for expressing  soul states.

Draw this figure * on a sheet of paper. The “T” on the face stands for eyes and nose. The two lines above the head mark the connection channel to the One. Imagine the paper was endlessly long upwards.

Pull out the figure along the lateral lines.

This is yourself, with all that you have and all that you are, and connected with the One. Fully and unconditionally loved as you are. Because the One that you come from is unconditional love. You could also call it life energy or just energy, whatever feels most comfortable to you. Imagine this energetic connection going deep into the universe or to God – depending on what you call it.

Cutting the connection. This is what happens when you enter the world and its laws: you lose your awareness of the vertical connection with the One, the life energy, almost completely through your horizontal experiences with other people. A small part is always preserved, but the question is whether and above all how you continue to use this connection (consciously).

Every being is born with inherited traumas. As a representation of these traumas, tear a segment off  the figure.

Beliefs are also inherited: beliefs about what and who you are, what you can and should do with your potential and what you can’t. Tear out more parts.

No child is born with instructions for use. Parents are therefore guaranteed to do something wrong. ** Tear out another part on behalf of what your parents did wrong. In addition, tear out one  part each for stressful things that you experienced in kindergarten, school, with friends and partners, in your studies and at work. Also tear out a part for accidents or serious illnesses.

The parts are dissociations, split-off segments of self that are automatically lost through traumatization. The split-off segments are also called lost soul parts. Where the parts are missing in the figure, energetic imperfections and injuries remain, also called shadows. Naturally, these are much smaller, but considerably more numerous than in this drawing.

The English idiom “It took a piece of me” perfectly describes the experience of something having come at great emotional cost. We’re “At a loss” when we’re totally helpless. And in both German and English, we express a similar feeling as “being beside oneself” whenever something really bad happens.

With each loss of self, life energy is reduced. As a result, the feeling of unconditional love dwindles. In other words, you are in constant stress due to these losses, or missing parts.

To compensate for this, people use different strategies to “refill” with horizontal energy: substances of all kinds, too much work, too many relationships, too much commitment, too much sacrifice, too much of everything. The society we live in offers endless compensatory solutions, and we ourselves are part of these strategies.

Humans also fill up with love, albeit worldly, conditional love. This kind of love is what is left after the dissociations of feeling and knowing about unconditional love. Conditional love says: “If you do this or that, you will be loved.” Or “If I do this or that, I will be loved.” Almost everyone soaks it up.

Even split-off bits of self are available – and are subconsciously built in by others. We use these free-floating to mask fragility, and to boost our energetic protection from the outside.

But external self does not fit. You can feel it. Getting rid of it is a challenge. It is hard to identify and to locate. It also has a different quality than transient energy such as substances or work.

All efforts to fill in the flaws are in vain. Because for the “tanks” that would have to be filled, nothing is ever enough. That’s why so many relationships go wrong.

Some people then try the opposite and are willing to give up the rest themselves, believing this will alleviate their grief. Or they try to cope with their remaining self. For example, by becoming aware of their losses and trying to “integrate” them into themselves. 

We have developed these strategies from an early age and have also adopted them from others who feel the same way. These strategies are part of how we work  together on Earth, and have  been well established for a very long time. In doing so, people mirror each other’s imperfections and react to them unconsciously and unpredictably. This is called triggering; it can also turn into  bullying and worse.

But sticking to the strategies is exhausted. Balancing the split-off self will eventually become too difficult. Here is a paradox phenomenon: what is no longer there is still a burden. So the parts that are still there are not too heavy. What is missing makes it difficult. You can break because of this, it de-presses you.

The reformer Martin Luther called the person suffering in this way the homo incurvatus in se, the twisted person.

Sigmund Freud named three sources for this suffering, namely the superiority of nature, the fragility of the body and the inadequacy of the facilities that regulate our relationships in family, state and society. Yes.

But it is only one source from which we feed, and that is this One Energy.

Because we lost inherent awareness, we lost the knowledge and experience of being unconditionally loved. This is exactly our real suffering, from which all other suffering on Earth results. Because the more unconditional love people lack when they are small – the more they associate – the crueler or the more tolerant they turn out to be when they get older.

What is shown here has another impact. Because the frequencies on which people can travel, on which they perceive their environment and to which they can react, are open or blocked due to the dissociations, ready to send and receive or disturbed, receptive or deaf and everything in between.

This affects the resonance *** between them and the world, especially between them and other people. But above all, human resonance suffers in itself.

Music without words can be helpful. That is why it is balm for the soul. If it contains words, depending on the content, it can intensify or alleviate the pain of the lost self.

Intrasonance means gradually moving the lost parts back to their original place. One finds one’s home in both Having and Being, one can live in oneself (habite secum).

Your having and being awaits you and knows where which piece belongs – and also which piece should best be retrieved and when. This is important. Because separation from self functions as energetic protection in stressful situations. All dissociations then resulted in a protective structure familiar to you over time.

You can feel how obstructive this structure is, for example, when relationships do not work, you cannot get rid of substances or other unpleasant symptoms appear.

With Intrasonance, you only ever retrieve the parts that have been lost due to past stresses and that have something to do with what is stressing you now. Because both are causally related.

The retrieval works without you having to talk about bad experiences.

You are an unconditionally beloved child of God and, like everyone else, have the birthright to become and be wholesome in your own being, and having.


* The figure comes from the formal language of my artistic work on the subject of suffering vs. security in human history.

** Parents are so torn themselves, so were their parents and keep going back through the generations.

*** See Hartmut Rosa: Resonance. A sociology of world relationships. 2nd edition. Suhrkamp Verlag, Berlin 2016, ISBN 3-518-58626-2